Hi, I’m Wendy and I live in South Lanarkshire in Scotland. I’m mum to four children – Caitlin, Sophie, Justin and Charlotte.
My younger two children are swans and are believed to have the same undiagnosed genetic condition. Sadly Justin passed away aged ten in 2014. Charlotte cannot walk or weight-bear; she has limited speech, global developmental delay, hypotonia, bowel problems and requires growth hormone. Justin had all of these issues and was also oxygen dependant. Charlotte now attends the same special needs school that Justin did.
Despite a barrage of tests over the years we have no diagnosis which can be difficult when dealing with professionals. However, on a visit to the genetics department at Glasgow in 2012 we found a SWAN UK leaflet and I am so happy we joined.
SWAN UK has been a lifeline, a friendly ear and has stopped me feeling isolated. Before joining we never fitted in because of the lack of diagnosis, but now I have a support network and friends who just ‘get it’. It is so good to know that I am not alone and always have someone to talk to.
I have found that there can be a huge lack of support for undiagnosed families and a lack of understanding from some professionals. I look forward to spreading the word about SWAN UK in Scotland to hopefully help as many families as possible, and to liaise with professionals to foster greater understanding.
Hello, my name is Claudia and I live a lovely village just outside Winchester, Hampshire. I live with my husband Warren and my three gorgeous boys. Broden (eleven), Chase (five) and my swan Trent (four).
We realised from very early on that there was something different about Trent. He wasn’t hitting his milestones, feeding was an issue and he used to literally scream for hours on end. We started to get some diagnoses including global developmental delay (GDD) and autism. He is also non-verbal and hyper-sensitive. Trent has only been walking for just over a year.
What makes him our swan is that he has undiagnosed brain damage. We have had two MRI scans, both with very different results, but no answers. While there was information available on GDD and autism, that was easily accessible, and we got lots of leaflets given to us from our paediatrician, there wasn’t anything about how to live without a diagnosis. That’s when I found SWAN UK. It is comforting to know that there are families out there that truly know what it is like having a swan. I am really looking forward to meeting other swan families and introducing them to the SWAN UK support network.
Hi I’m Amanda, a single mum to three boys and I live in Bournemouth, Dorset. My boys are Louie 15, Oscar 13 and Harry 10. My younger two are both swans and have a number of various diagnoses but no explanation or over all diagnosis for their issues. Both have duplication of chromosome 8q13.2; this is from me and associated with brain development. All three of us have a diagnosis of an Autistic Spectrum Disorder. My swans also have duplication of chromosome 3p26.3, some physical developmental issues, connective tissue disorder, joint hypermobility syndrome, bowel issues and sleep disorder. Harry also has motor tics and Oscar is selective mute. They attend mainstream school and Oscar has a full time one to one. At times they are unable to move or walk because of their joints and connective tissues disorder. This can cause pain and swelling and at times Oscar needs a wheelchair. I have tried many support groups as each diagnosis was made and I never felt as if I fitted into any of these groups. I was told about SWAN UK and how they support families of children that have undiagnosed genetic conditions and immediately I knew I had found the place for me. They support such a range of conditions from moderate to severely complex medical and learning difficulties. None of our children are the same, however, we all understand each other and are on the same journey so I no longer feel alone and isolated.
My hope going forward is that I can provide a local support network. I will be setting up some regular stay and plays and coffee meet ups to bring families together, and eventually some family days out. I will also be promoting SWAN UK through local groups and information days to find more families who need support. I am keen to identify local medical professionals to connect with and educate them about SWAN UK and undiagnosed genetic conditions, the impact on families and how to put them in contact with SWAN UK. I’m really looking forward to meeting and getting to know more SWAN UK families too.
Hi, I’m Amy and I am Parent Rep for Wales, covering the Cardiff area. I have organised a few SWAN UK meetups over the years, and previously held a similar role for another children’s charity for around four years. I joined SWAN UK around eight years ago when my eldest was two years old. Having been born prematurely, and suffering from numerous health setbacks and challenges, we spent the following five years visiting a number of professionals who were unable to offer my child an overall diagnosis. This of course meant that not only was support lacking, but that his needs were also being neglected. By this time, I had also gone on to have a second child with similar difficulties, although with more severe communication and behavioural issues. Thankfully in 2015 both my children were taken on by a new team of professionals who were extremely supportive and were able to offer partial diagnoses for them both. Although there are a few issues that are still a bit of a mystery, my children’s needs are finally being supported and are progressing well in their own quirky way! Having given a talk to professionals in my role as Parent Rep I’m keen to engage in more public speaking as I think it’s really important that professionals work closely with parents (who are often the experts on their child’s needs!) to best support not only the undiagnosed child, but the family as a whole too. The SWAN UK network really helped me during those early years where we didn’t quite fit into any other group. Being a member also taught me to cherish each and every day with my amazing children, and to live life to the maximum. Although all our children are all very, very different, we are united as one family and that is special. I am really looking forward to developing the undiagnosed network in Cardiff – it’s been a long time coming!
Hi, I’m Sara and I live in Leeds with my husband Dave and our two swans, Aidan who is six and Rhiannon who is 11. I’m also a swan myself. Aidan is the youngest and is more complex and that’s how we found out about SWAN UK. I was on a feeding tube awareness page when SWAN UK popped up on the screen and I thought ‘oh my god, that’s us’. We’ve been members for four years now and since finding SWAN UK I no longer feel alone.
I am a qualified rugby league coach for the Rugby Football League and used to volunteer for them before as well as the Church Lads & Church Girls Brigade before I got ill. I’ve also been a moderator for another organisation’s message board where I helped to support other families using my own experience, which is what I want to do again with SWAN UK.
I’d considered being a Parent Rep for a while as I’d arranged a few coffee mornings for SWAN UK members in West Yorkshire and I thought it seemed to be next logical step. I want to give support back to others while things are stable for our family, especially for new members who are feeling alone like we did all those years ago.
Hi, I’m Tina from Telford, Shropshire. I live with my five-year-old son called Oliver and 13 pets that consist of two dogs, two cats, a parrot, a tarantula, a snake, a lizard and five chickens … so not a quiet household! Oliver is non-verbal with Global Developmental Delay, sensory processing disorder, bilateral squint, chronic lung disease, balanced translocation of chromosomes six and eleven, enlarged tongue, dysmorphic features and autism. His life threatening issues come from having vocal cord paralysis, a floppy larynx and a restricted airway which means he can’t have liquids or lumpy food. Everything he has is pureed and he is also PEG fed. Oliver also requires oxygen when he gets any sort of cold or chest infection.
For a long time I didn’t know where to find support regarding all of Oliver’s complex medical issues and joined separate groups for each illness that Oliver has, so when I found SWAN UK and realised that we weren’t alone it was such a huge relief and amazing to be part of a group that understand my stresses and issues. I realised that there are so many families struggling without support and so decided I would like to help and become a Parent Rep to reach out to as many families within Shropshire as possible.
Hi, I’m Tina and I’m from Stockport in Greater Manchester. I’m wife to Dave and mum to Sophie, ten, and my swan, Jack who is two.
I’ve been a member of SWAN UK since 2015, having learnt about the network from another charity. Jack has a myelin deficiency which affects his brain and has had a follow-on impact on his development. He is very floppy, non-verbal and needs to be fed through a tube with a pump.
When we had an initial diagnosis we were inundated with offers of help and advice, but when that diagnosis was deemed incorrect by specialists, the offers of help fell silent. I decided to volunteer as a SWAN UK Parent Rep because I want to help in any way I can to reach those that feel isolated and alone as I did when I started this journey and before I learned about the wonderful support that SWAN UK provides.
I have always worked full time and have never done anything like this before.
In my local area I’ve found that there is a lack of information for those affected by undiagnosed genetic conditions.
If I can help to reach just one other person who did not realise that they were not alone, I will be very happy.
Hello, my name is Marie and I live in a beautiful village in East Sussex with my wonderfully supportive husband Mike and our two amazing children Henry (6) and Dottie (4).
When Dottie was around one years old we realised she wasn’t developing as expected and she also started to have seizures. The consultant who had been keeping an eye on us ‘just in case’ since Dottie was born asked me if I worked as I was going to be very busy with appointments. He wasn’t wrong; within six months we were being seen by several consultants in different departments at GOSH and doctors and therapists locally as well.
When Dottie was around around two and half our genetics consultant told us it was highly likely Dottie has a genetic condition, probably rare, maybe as yet not discovered.
Despite all we have been through so far this still came as a shock. It meant she wouldn’t just grow out of all of this as lots of friends and family told us to try and reassure us. It finally dawned on me that this is why all the doctors we were seeing were scratching their heads and not giving us any answers.
It was some time after this during one of my many late night google searches that I came across SWAN UK and realised we were not alone. Just that on its own gave some reassurance.
I’ve stopped my internet searches for now as they are not helpful and cause more worry and sleepless nights rather than provide reassurance. Both me and my husband practise living in the moment, living for now. We have two wonderful children who are both so very happy and give us so much joy and teach us more than we ever thought possible everyday. We don’t know what the future holds or if we will ever get a diagnosis but for now that’s fine. We are not alone.
Hi. I’m Danielle, mummy & full time carer to Dylan. Having an undiagnosed, medically complex child can sometimes feel isolating, lonely and very frustrating, that’s where I can help. Based in West Essex I am the SWAN UK rep for Essex ‘The Only Way is Essex!!’
I’m hoping, from what I’ve learnt from having Dylan in the last (almost) 6 years I can use this knowledge in my role as a Parent Rep and can identify and reach out to families with undiagnosed children in the area, and raise awareness locally about being undiagnosed.
My name is Emma and I live with my husband on the borders of Bedfordshire and Cambridgeshire. We have three children all with additional needs. I work part-time as a paramedic.
My three children and I are all currently mostly undiagnosed. As a child I had lots of hospital appointments and met lots of professionals who looked at my various symptoms in isolation. It was never really considered that these may all have an underlying cause which connected them all.
We also joined SWAN UK in 2012 after a fellow swan mum pointed us in the right direction, it’s an amazing group where I have made lots of friends and there is a wealth of knowledge. I only wish I had known about SWAN UK in the early often very gloomy days. I look forward to meeting more SWAN UK families and helping to raise awareness of the additional challenges associated by being undiagnosed, be it a child or an adult like myself.
Hello, I’m Louise James the SWAN UK Parent Rep for Bristol. SWAN UK (syndromes without a name) is run by the charity Genetic Alliance UK. It offers support and information to families of children with undiagnosed genetic conditions. I have three children. My youngest Scott who was born in 2010 has epilepsy, Global Developmental Delay, severe learning difficulties, hyper-mobility, low truncal tone and sensory processing disorder, but no overriding diagnosis to explain the cause of his issues. It took a long time for doctors to listen to my concerns when Scott was first born as all test results were coming back as normal and this made accessing support nearly impossible, until my health visitor gave me some information which led me to SWAN UK. I have chosen to volunteer for SWAN UK as a Parent Rep so that I can raise awareness in my local and surrounding areas and hopefully help families feel less isolated. My Background is in early years and I work part time in a local nursery as a Special Educational Needs and Disability support.
Hi I’m Michelle. I’m mum to William and James and we live in Barnsley South Yorkshire.
Our Swan is James who is 5 and still mostly undiagnosed. From birth James was poorly with seizure like activity and respiratory problems. We just assumed that the first consultant that met us would know what was wrong, diagnose the issue, start treatment, get James better and our lives would get back to normal! The first 2 years of James’ life is just a horrible blur of tests, operations and hospital admissions. We were terrified, isolated, sinking fast and had no one to turn to because we had an undiagnosed child so we never ticked the right boxes.
One day a nurse on the ward mentioned SWAN UK, which was a lifeline for us as we weren’t alone. There were other families out there that were fighting similar battles to us. The feeling of not being alone any more was empowering, I have made some wonderful friends who quite simply ‘just get it’. I have really enjoyed organising events and local meet ups whether it is visiting a family in hospital or just having a quick coffee with a swan mum who just needs someone to listen.
Hi, I’m Lisa, mum of 4 children, 3 of whom have special needs, 2 being SWANS and 1 having aspergers with sensory processing disorder. My youngest swan is our daughter, Amelia, who has an undiagnosed neuromuscular/neurogenic condition. She can run and jump one minute and not even sit up properly the next. She has a feeding tube for nutritional support and takes a raft of medications every day. She uses a wheelchair when fatigued and we do physio at home and at the hospital on a regular basis. Despite the ups and downs, she is hugely entertaining, determined and feisty.
When I joined SWAN UK over 3 years ago, I discovered a group of like-minded parents. Although our children’s issues can vary hugely, we all share the common bond of being undiagnosed and not knowing where we fit in. I love the camaraderie, sharing the highs and lows, the knock backs and achievements and knowing that day or night, someone will be around to offer support.
Hi, I’m Claire and I’m a single parent of 4 children between the ages of 13 and 6. We live in Northampton, in the East Midlands. My 3 younger children are all undiagnosed. They have a host of medical issues, from coeliac disease, to gut dysmotility, food allergies to anxiety, a heart murmur, to growth disorders, hypermobility to chronic pain, hypoglycaemia, to reflex anoxic seizures, and hypothyroidism to good old fashioned reflux and a few learning difficulties thrown in for good measure, amongst others. My youngest son is currently the most complex of the 3, involving a regime of Total Parenteral Nutrition (Intravenous feeds) and enteral (tube) feeds.
I have spent many years trudging my way through, alone, afraid, and isolated, trying to add myself to support groups, but never quite feeling like I fitted in, with everything a battle. Then I found SWAN UK and my life became less alone, I was a part of something, and I felt like I fitted. I am really excited to get started on this journey, and bringing SWAN UK to Northamptonshire!
I’m Helen and I live in North Nottinghamshire with my two children, Chloe, 15 and my Swan Steven, 12. I also visit the Oxfordshire and Berkshire areas often as I have family living there.
Steven suffers from medical and learning difficulties. Looking at Steven you wouldn’t think that anything is wrong with him. He attends a local mainstream school, he’s also a member of a local dance school along with his sister Chloe. He competes in dance competitions as well dance shows and loves acting.
Before I found SWAN UK I felt alone in this journey, so did Chloe and Steven. Finding SWAN UK has helped us as a family to see that we’re not travelling this road alone. I want to raise the profile of SWAN UK locally so we can reach more families so they don’t feel so alone.
My role is to support the SWAN UK team in all their office-based work and to manage the registration of new members. My background is editorial work in trade publishing but I subsequently became involved in the charity world and worked for a national learning disability charity before I came to Genetic Alliance UK.
I am particularly interested in the impact that raising a child with an undiagnosed genetic condition has on the family as a whole, and in finding ways to support parents and siblings in that position.
As Digital Communications and Support Officer at SWAN UK, my role includes managing relationships with external stakeholders including media and charitable organisations and healthcare professionals. I am responsible for generating communications for SWAN UK members and professionals as well as managing SWAN UK’s social media accounts.
My work involves raising awareness of SWAN UK’s work and undiagnosed genetic conditions and I work closely with families to communicate their experiences as well as acting as the first point of contact for enquiries. I also enjoy organising events for SWAN UK families.
I have a background in journalism, marketing and events and am passionate about giving people a voice and a platform to tell their stories.
My role is to oversee the coordination of SWAN UK, with a specific focus on developing on the ground support for families of children with undiagnosed genetic conditions in their local area.
Coordinating SWAN UK builds on my previous experience working for other disability charities such as Kids and Centre 404. I have a Masters in Anthropology and Development studies and enjoy working with families to develop support their needs. I am also particularly interested in the role social media can play in preventing social isolation.
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